When Harry Met Sally

When both(prenominal)er met cracking Based on the confabulation tendencys listed in your text (Closed, Open, Hidden & Blind), enchant match a event to severally of these styles. List the character, and then support your answer with a specific example. Closed Communication Style- Marie shows signs of representing a closed communication style because she spends most of her eon in the film overly obsessed with a marry man. She has a hard time recognizing the fact that he is married and stays in the family relationship with him even though it has no clear destination.Hidden Communication Style- I witnessed two examples of hidden communication thru out the movie. one(a) example, when chevy is persistent about questioning Sallys life and never really shares his own life experiences. Jess is another example of a hidden communicator. Jess was refer about Harry not being happy when they were batting. He also showed that he was concerned about the progress of Harrys relationship and his ablaze feelings while his mating was disintegrating. Blind Communication Style-From my understanding, blind communicators voice their opinions about how things should be done and fill no problem with telling people what they have done wrong. The character that I think represented blind communication mostly throughout the film was Harry. Harry had the tendency to think his loveledge superseded everyone else when it came to relationships. For example, Harry criticized Sally on the way to the eating house when they beginning met outside the college. He talked about her choice of career, and basically said that she will not know what to do when her world comes crashing set down so to speak.Open Communication Style- Based on my knowledge from the book, people that express all their feelings, emotions, life experiences and more are considered open communicators. Based on the conversations between Harry and Sally, I would have no choice but to say that Sally is classified as an open communicator. When Harry asked Sally at the restaurant who she had great sex with, at first she refused to tell him and only seconds later she rambled on and on about her sexual experience. Match a character to each of these conflict strategies? Give a specific example to support your answer.Compromising- (Jess) In the movie Jess and Marie were having an argument over Jesss table (whether or not to have it in their home). Marie did not want the table, Jess asked Harry what he thought and after Harry gave him his opinion Jess got rid of the table. Collaborating/Problem-Solving- (Harry) Harry spent a lot of time attempting to fix his relationship with Sally after their huge fight. He kept calling her and in the end sang to her over the answering machine when she did not pickup. reconciling/smoothing-(Marie) In the movie Marie held a relationship with a married man.She discarded her own feelings to make believe this guy happy, and he never once considered her feelings. She h ad this fantasy that he was going to leave his wife to be with her, but it reality he never intended to. Marie put her feelings last to make the so called relationship work. Avoiding/Withdrawal-(Sally) When Harry and Sally first met and were at the restaurant, Harry complimented Sally on her attractiveness. Sally, be loyal to her friend, immediately gets up and is ready to leave, because she knows that Harry is in a relationship with her friend.In this example she is withdrawing herself from a situation, by avoiding the compliment. Competing/Forcing-(Harry) Harry is constantly debating his relationship knowledge with Sally in the movie. He is a very competitive individual and seems to eer have the need to be right. Provide 3 signs of poor listening seem throughout the film. Provide ways that their listening could be improved. One sign of poor listening that I remember, was each time Marie talked about her boyfriend and Sally tried to tell her that the he would never leave his wife Marie appeared to listen but refused to take the advice to leave him.She could of maybe did some compare and contrast to her relationship and others to realize that Sally was right. If she would have listened to her, she would have saved herself the emotional rollercoaster and maybe could have found a man sooner. The second sign of poor listening was when the two couples were exiting the restaurant from their double date. Harry and Sally both verbalised, separately, to Jess and Marie that it would be better for them to wait to call each other to protect the feelings of Harry and Sally.Jess and Marie obviously couldnt wait to be together, so they got in the first cab they saw and drove away together. This illustration of poor listening could have been improved if Jess and Marie took Harry and Sallys advice and waited a little spell to see each other again. The third sign of poor listening I witnessed was during one of Harry and Sallys many conversations. He told her that it was t hat impossible for a woman and a man to be friends. He stated that sexual relations would basically occur no matter what.Sally eventually forgot about, (and Harry as well having no recollection). Physical Barriers to rough-and-ready listening Throughout the movie I saw quite a a couple of(prenominal) examples that could be defined as physical barriers. One of them was when Harry and Jess were discussing Harrys marriage issues during the football game. Also when the two of them were batting cages at the aforesaid(prenominal) time as they were discussing Harry and Sallys relationship issues. Both of these scenarios could have prevented effective listening by distraction of physical barriers. Personal Barriers to effective listeningHarry was unable to concentrate after seeing his ex with her new partner. Harry was completely distracted and wasnt even able to hear Jess, Marie, or Sally talking to him about the table. Gender Barriers to effective listening When Harry and Sally were dr iving to New York and they had discussed Casa Blanca and the end of the film when the lady was boarding the plane, Harry expressed that the woman should stay for sex. Semantic Barriers to effective listening Harry told the waitress that Sally was with him. In my opinion he was just telling her that they would be academic term together.However, sally took it the wrong way and expressed her thoughts aloud and said that they she was not with him. What is your own conflict management style? Give an example that supports your style. Have you been disgraced of any of the signs of poor listening? What will you do in the future to improve your listening? I would have to say that my conflict management style is the Competing style. To my understanding, people who hold this style tend to be extremely assertive to achieve their goals. I have the tendency to be what some would call stealthy.I tend to elevate my own argument and conceal my goals to let the opposing side think they are ahead. For example, I currently hold a gross sales position. As we all know the sales industry is very competitive. My employer often has rewards and bonuses for the top sales performers of the month. I like to fake people out and make them think that I am not doing so hot on my sales so they will think I am behind them on the ranking. This way, once they think they have beaten me, their effort will slowly decline and there I am still banking on my sales.Being in the sales field I do need to have attentive listening skills so I can read between the lines and let the customer know exactly what they need. Im positive that at one point we have all been guilty of poor listening skills. Maybe for example in the drive-thru when they read back your order and you just automatically say that is correct because you have been sitting there for 10 minutes already, and then when you get your victuals and its not what you ordered but it is exactly what is on the receipt. In the future I will continue to build my listening skills buy get clarity from individuals and clients.